Toke Makinwa, a well-known media personality and model, claims that if she and Maje Ayida had a child together, she would have reconciled and stayed in their marriage.
She wed fitness businessman Maje Ayida in 2014, but their union disintegrated in 2017.
In the most recent episode of her podcast, TokeMoments, Makinwa said that she would have been “one of the women” who stayed in marriage for their children. Nollywood actress Iyabo Ojo was a guest on the show.
She said: “I feel that a lot of women stay in unhappy marriages because of the kids sometimes. Women have been saying things like, “The marriage is over, but I only stay for my kids,” for a very long time.
And if I had given birth while I was still married, I might have been one of those ladies. because I also had the trauma of losing both of my parents when I was eight. I was adopted, and while I am grateful for my wonderful life and adoption, there have been times when I have pondered what my life would have been like otherwise.
So, in order to ensure that my kids got both their parents, I may have had to make a compromise. One of these women might have been me. I am not even passing judgment on anyone at this time.
Ojo’s response was that she now has a greater grasp of life and wishes she had remained in her marriage.
I was young at the time, she remarked. Many of the decisions I made, if I had been this age, I probably would not have made. because I have matured and gained a deeper comprehension of life.
“I feel more exposed and educated now. However, I was coming from a place where I had previously suffered harm as a youngster. Do you know what it is like to come from a highly wealthy family but yet have to raise yourself? things of the sort.
My parents were not around when I was a child. My father, my grandmother, and his brothers were my roommates. My grandmother was my mum to me. My dad was not like a dad; he was like a brother and friend. He was like an uncle because he enjoyed life too much and really didn’t have time to pay attention to me.
“Growing up in that kind of situation where I didn’t even know what they called ‘mummy’, I didn’t know I had a mother; I only knew my mum when I was about seven. My parents were never married; they just had my brother and me together”